Sexuality of men and women: Girls Like Sex

1.  Sexuality of men and women: how to harmonize our differences?
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3.  Sexuality of men and women: how to harmonize our differences?
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• Sexual differences between men and women are certainly sources of attraction and pleasure. But it is not so easy to understand and accept them. An important prerequisite before any romantic relationship.
• "Boys only watch us for sex, that turns me off," said Clara, a high school student. "I find girls too complicated," Alex replies ...
• For those who are in a relationship, sexual harmony is not always there either. Sexuality can be pleasure, union, fulfillment, but sometimes also a source of disappointment and injury ...
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• So why isn't it as simple as you might think? Heterosexuality - the most common sexual orientation - is it less natural than we imagine? Are not the bodies of man and woman complementary?
• Human sexuality: body, psychology, culture, beliefs ...
• In reality, this is not enough because in human beings, sexuality cannot be reduced to a physical act. "Due to the large development of the neocortex, and especially the major development of the prefrontal cortex, the cognitive factor becomes decisive", explain the scientists.
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• The cognitive factor? It is about our intelligence, our memory, our interiority, our thought ... Human sexuality is therefore conditioned by the body but also psychology, culture, beliefs. It is not purely mechanical - as pornography mistakenly suggests - but involves our whole being and takes on its full meaning when motivated by love.
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• To prepare well for it and live it well, it is not enough to know how to "make love". A broader understanding of female and male sexuality is needed.
• Start by welcoming your own sex
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• "We can start by welcoming, or even reconciling with one's gender, explains Nathalie Loevenbruck, family and marriage counselor in a book devoted to sexual harmony (Aimer de tout son corps, éd. Emmanuel). Because this sex which is mine , I did not choose it, I am not its origin, it is given to me! "
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• This goes in particular by the reception of his sexual body: "It is my body which draws the border which allows both to define myself and to open myself to the other in a respectful and enriching relationship. ", continues Nathalie Loevenbruck.
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• Before giving your body, you can therefore respect it and take care of it: eat in a balanced way, play sports, choose your clothes well, wash, perfume ... In adolescence, the rapid transformations of your body can frighten and destabilize. Getting information to understand, express your fears and above all be patient is better than masking your disorder with risky behavior and sexual behavior.
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• Because the young girl, explains the marriage counselor, seeks to be recognized and consecrated in her femininity by the affection, the admiration of a boy ... "And this can lead some to open their intimacy not because of it. have a real desire, but more to receive carnal proof this affection. " However, on the boy's side, "the desire to take action with a girl is sometimes more of an initiation rite than an act of love". We understand why teenage sex is often so hurtful.
• Finding your identity as a man or a woman
• But our gender identity also depends on representations of femininity and masculinity that comes from our family, our education, our culture ...
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• The good news is that we are now free to retain only what really suits us. You don't have to be the same kind of woman as your mother, or the same kind of man as your father, to choose "a man's or a woman's job" ... There is a thousand ways today to be a man or a woman because each being is unique.
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• This allows you to be more comfortable with your identity as a man or a woman ... and to open up peacefully to the other sex when the time comes.
• Physical and psychological differences to know
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• - In men, the sexual organs are external, while in women, on the contrary, a large part of the genital system is internal, hidden in the lower abdomen.
• For her, sexuality has a more intimate impact: she receives the male seed in the interior of her body. The first sexual intercourse also causes the rupture of the hymen, the membrane which seals the vagina. And if an egg is fertilized, it is in it that the embryo develops, it is she who bears the child.
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• We understand why a woman often perceives sex more spontaneously as something important and engaging ...
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• - Fertility is also different from one sex to another. The man is fertile from puberty and until old age, continuously and stable day after day: in fact, his testicles continuously produce a large quantity of sperm. The man is therefore potentially fertile at each sexual union.
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• In women, fertility, on the contrary, is cyclical: it is fertile only a few days per cycle around ovulation. The female cycle is regulated by hormonal secretions which vary from day to day. This influences his fertility, but also his sexual desire (stronger at the time of ovulation), his mood and his form.
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• In men, there are no these variations: the male sex hormone, testosterone (which causes the secretion of spermatozoa) is secreted constantly from day to day. Sexual desire and mood are not subject to sudden changes of a hormonal nature.
• When desire awakens
• Nothing more delicious than this desire which pushes one towards the other. But again, desire does not vibrate quite the same strings in the male or female universe.
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• In men, sexual arousal happens quite quickly at the sight of erotic images or a naked body. This causes an almost "automatic" erection.
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• For women, things are more complex. Desire can be favored or hindered by external worries, the atmosphere, fatigue. "While sexual union relaxes men, women need to feel relaxed in order to want to unite", writes Nathalie Loevenbruck.
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• And more than anything, the woman is sensitive to the quality of the romantic relationship. She has a hard time opening her body if her heart is still hurt by an argument, an unpleasant remark, or a lack of attention. Which makes some boys say that girls are "complicated".
• Despite everything, the "foreplay" (kisses, caresses) before the union make her rise in sexual excitement by lubricating her genitals.
• A shared pleasure but not the same
• Sexuality of men and women: how to harmonize our differences?
• Yes, again, there are differences, even if the sexual union is a source of pleasure for one as for the other.
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• For men, maximum pleasure occurs when the sperm spurts out. He feels a series of muscle spasms, an orgasm, followed by a very marked release of tension. In full sexual relations (with ejaculation in the woman's vagina), the man therefore necessarily has an orgasm.
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• In women, pleasure does not correspond to the same type of physiological phenomenon. She may also feel an orgasm at the level of the cervix, deep in the vagina, but not necessarily when the man pours out the semen. This can also be when caressing the clitoris for example, during foreplay. She may also not have it and sometimes it takes several years for young women to experience this pleasure.
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• Know how to listen and wait for the other
• To taste the sexual pleasure but also make it taste the other, each has to control his gestures and his desire to get in tune with his partner:
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• - "The man has everything to gain by taming his impetuosity to await the rise of the pleasure of his wife", writes the advisor.
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• - The woman can take care not to excite her partner too much by certain caresses as long as she does not feel "ready" because beyond a certain level of excitement, the man can no longer "come back. backward".
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• The sexual harmony so vaunted by magazines is therefore never acquired but to be found in each relationship by listening to the sensations and emotions of the other.
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• Set the differences to music to achieve a beautiful harmony
• We now understand better why the "success" of a union does not depend solely on technical considerations: certainly knowing the other's body and one's own is important. Knowing the particularities of male sexuality and those of female sexuality helps to avoid many mistakes and clumsiness.
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• But once all these differences are known, you still have to want to take them into account, make them dialogue and put them to music to obtain a beautiful harmony.
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• Loving the other who is different in his body and his heart, that is the great challenge of human sexuality! And to meet it, impossible to do without dialogue, attention to others and tenderness. In short, love.